it could be argued that exjws have issues in life simply because they were jehovah’s witnesses at a point in their lives.
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do you think you or we are fairly normal considering we were jehovah’s witnesses or do you think we have a lot of baggage because we are a bit messed up ( even if we don’t even know it)?.
Sometimes I am negative and depressed. But I am always working on it. I have been looking into "My Big Toe" the theory of everything. Using Quantum physics. By Thomas Campbell.
I am understanding that very possibly I chose my parents and I chose my false religion as a learning experience as something to rise above.
So when I find myself negative because of my JW experience, I reflect on this information and start to make sense of my life and become a player.
i faded from the religion and simply didn’t go back.
once people understood that my family and i left, people in the congregation didn’t know what to do.
should they call me, visit me, leave me alone?
They bother me a lot. The whole shunning and tearing families apart thing.
I causes a lot of problems and bad feelings.
my mother was not the most emotionally stable person.
she was a follower and instilled in me the idea we were better than those worldly people.
its hard to go to school as a child and you can not be friends outside of school, you can not celebrate any holidays, and you are told all these people are going to die.
I have a lot of anger with my mother for raising me as a witness. And I have anger with my father for allowing her to raise me as a witness. I am 65. My mother just died this week at 87. I guess I will have this anger until the day I die.
I hate the JW cult.
i have come to the conclusion that there is no way for me to ever leave.
although i have some friends at work, my whole social structure are witnesses.
even if i move congregations, my parents have contacts everywhere who will tell them if i’m not active.
I was born in and trapped for 30 years. And I felt the same way you did.
Then one day, I got fed up and said no more and I never went back.
I was once a pioneer and a ministerial servant.
I gave up a lot of phony friends and a full social calendar.
I don't regret leaving. I have had a good life out of the cult.
One bit of advice, I can give you from my experience is, I have always been an avid reader.
I have my own library a room of books.
If you want to leave or understand if and how to leave, start out reading "your erroneous zones" by Wayne Dyer.
And see where that leaves/ leads you.
it,s simple, i can not remember crap from my previous life.. the wife told me today if you come back in the next life, please.
take some science classes.. if i could remember a small percentage of my life today, just a little.
bit, man would it make a difference.. in school i would be 100% nerd, geek, book worm.
I guess nowadays, I don't believe in anything. Because, I can't prove anything.
The only thing I see is when you are dead you are dead.
If we are in some kind of computer simulation. Then there are lots of possibilities that are not provable by
our understanding of the way things we see work but could work by a computer program.
i went on line looking for old jw songs and some of them were pretty good and some were just awful!.
did you ever like any of those songs?
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Shulamite maiden. We played that at my wedding when my wife came down the ailse.
Were Jehovahs witnesses was catchy.
Watch how you walk and watch how you talk. comes to mind.
After 30 years that's all I can think of.
good afternoon , .
i wanted to ask everyone here , what was your trigger to waking up ?
i have been waking up for a long time , but in looking back it’s hard for me to look at one event and say “ ah ha “ , i think mine is like a slow leak - like a crack in a damn - and then hold on , because after that it’s just a flood of information.
My trigger to waking up was January 1, 1976.
I have been awake regarding the JW's since that date.
i posted on another thread about a couple of my experiences of meeting the governing body while i was in brooklyn.
i wanted to see if anyone else had any experiences along these same lines.
i met most of the ones that were current during the 2001-2003 years.
I met Brother Knorr.
beliefs are not things to be chosen like new clothes; authentic beliefs happen to us without our conscious attention.. i have often seen comments from ex-jws to the effect that they are now unsure about what they 'ought' to believe.
others express offense when their chosen beliefs are challenged and well-meaning bystanders protest that everybody is entitled to believe whatever they wish.
this misunderstanding of what it means to believe something is unhelpful.. it's natural to want to quickly replace our old beliefs when our worldview has collapsed around us.
Cofty that sounds like good advice.
your doctor prescribe cannabis (you are a depress jw), you show your prescription to the body of elders because someone saw you smoking pot.
i wonder how many elders will seek out that doctor to get the same medication.
what would be wrong with a jw lighting up a blunt after a hard day?
you can eat it if you don't want to smoke it. you can mix it up in some pebbles cereal
